Who is Sophie?
Hi lovely! I’m Sophie, a talkative (over) sharer, dedicated to helping you learn to love your life, and I’m so happy to welcome you to my little corner of the internet 🙂
Before we go any further, you might be asking yourself if you’re in the right place, if so take my simple quiz to see if I’m what you’re looking for. Done it? Let’s move on then…
My number one aim is to help as many mums as possible, the world over, to love their life, no matter what shape it takes.
How do I do that?
First of all I have tons of free ways to help you learn to get the most out of your life:
- Weekly blog posts with tips, resources, advice and more
- Frequent Facebook Live videos where you get to ask me questions live (or in advance)
- Weekly newsletters where you can read all the juicy bits I don’t share online
- Numerous freebies including my 10 day guide to falling (back) in love with your life and my video guide to decision-making and facing your fears
Need a bit more than that? No problem. Join my Love Your Life Club and become a LYL-er (pronounced Lila)! For less than the cost of a weekly coffee you get:
- A Monday morning email with exercises to work through on that week’s subject (anything and everything from forgiveness to carving out time for you, from gratitude to learning self-love, from dealing with you as a woman, as a wife and as a mum to financial or career matters)
- A weekly live call to ask me questions live and discuss that week’s subject
- A 24/7 private online community of LYL-ers where you can safely ask questions, share wins, rant, brag or whatever else you need to do
- A totally anonymous forum where you can ask your most private, embarrassing or sensitive questions in complete confidentiality
I want to hear you say “My life isn’t perfect, but I love it” AND believe it 🙂
Now I can hear you asking yourself “What does this Sophie chick know about me, my life and my struggles?”
You see I am a mum to two daughters, Léna and Clémence. And over the 10+ years that I’ve been a parent I have been a stay at home mum, a working mum and a work at home mum.
And I have loved and hated all of these roles at different times.
Sophie – the Working Mum
I went back to work when my eldest, Léna, was 3 months old and I wasn’t ready, which led to post-natal depression. Feelings that I swept under the carpet for years before realising exactly what had gone on.
I have spent nearly 5 years being a working mum. I know the pit of fear in your stomach when you realise you kid is sick and you need to figure out if:
a) you can get away with sending them to school / childcare anyway
b) you can work from home / take a day off
c) your partner can wangle it with their work
d) you can think of someone – anyone – who could be paid, bribed or cajoled to look after your sick child so you can go to work
I understand that feeling of kicked-in-the-guts sadness and disappointment at missing yet another assembly, sports day or school play.
I know what it’s like to only see your child for an hour or so a day, and often the worst hours.
I recognise your pain at leaving for work or coming home from work when your child is asleep and realising you’re missing out on them. Your pain at trying to talk to a toddler on the phone when you’re away on a business trip, and are unable to cuddle them and kiss them goodnight.
I know your pain. I have felt it too.
But equally I have loved being a working mum.
Getting to chat to actual adults.
Going to the toilet in peace.
Making a hot drink and consuming it hot.
The luxury of an actual lunch break.
Drinks with colleagues after work.
Feeling valued and like you actually bring something to your family, home and society.
Having your own money.
Oh how I loved these parts of being a working mum.
And what about you stay at home mums? I’ve been there too.
Sophie – the Stay At Home Mum (SAHM)
I was an SAHM for about 2 years. And I can still feel the humiliation. The feeling that you bring nothing to the table. That you bring nothing to the family or to society.
The number of times I’ve heard the words “Just a stay at home mum” as if you’re lazing your days away, living a life of daytime TV watching.
But when you try and explain to people what you do all day it comes across as whining, and no one except other stay at home mums believe you.
I remember the feeling of envy at the school gates as I saw the glamorous working mums dash off to be important in the world.
I recognise your dread as you head home from the school run, knowing you won’t be seeing another adult until pick up 6 hours later.
I understand you not actually wanting to spend time with your child. I know how boring your child can be sometimes, and that there is only so much of Dear Zoo that you can read, and only a certain amount of Peppa Pig that you can take before your head will implode.
I know what it feels like when you have to get up every night to deal with your kids, because your other half needs their sleep before work.
The lack of your own money is something I too have experienced and hated.
And feeling like a 1950s housewife who does the cooking, cleaning, dealing with kids 24/7 and so on and so forth is not a role that sat particularly well with me.
I also loved those moments. When my baby woke up from her lunchtime nap and I was there to pick up her giggling scrumminess, to drown in her baby smell and to cuddle her until my heart burst.
Oh wow. Those moments were like a drug and I was addicted.
Being there for my eldest daughter for drop off and pick up from school after so many years of NEVER making it were just magical. Holding her hand as she skipped down the road, excitedly telling me all about her day. As MasterCard would say – that is priceless.
So you know, I’ve been there for the highs and lows of both being a working mum and being a stay at home mum. I’ve loved and hated both. And I get where you’re coming from.
Sophie – the Work At Home Mum (WAHM)
And for now I’m in my favourite role – Work at home mum.
It’s not always the easiest. You have to juggle, juggle, juggle. Childcare, school, deadlines, sick kids, assemblies, sports day.
The household chores that need doing on the one hand vs the work to do list on the other hand.
Everyone assuming you’ve got time for bake sales and coffee as you’ve got neither kids nor a job to go to.
Constantly having to say no.
No to your older child when she wants to play a game together as you’re on a deadline.
No to joining the school PTA as you know you can’t free up the time during the day for meetings.
No to coffee mornings with the stay at home mums.
No to the occasional evening out or weekend activity as a sick child during the week has meant working evenings and weekends to catch up.
Being a Work at home mum is no harder or easier than being a working mum or SAHM.
Sophie – the Happy Mum
Everything changes when you become a mum. You will never again have the same time for you as before, No matter what mummy role you have.
Which is why it is so important to learn how to find happiness in your life. Why it is vital to learn to love your life.
You don’t need me to tell you that you only have one life and that the years speed past.
I have had my highs and lows as a mum over the last decade. Especially when I was in one of the above mummy roles that didn’t suit me at the time.
But I have learnt. I have spent 10 years reading books, watching talks and absorbing documentaries on how to lead a happy, fulfilled life. Both as a parent and as me.
It’s taken me a long time to get here, and I still have to work at not letting the negativity demons in, but I can safely say that I now have the tools to do this.
So it’s my turn to take all that I have learnt and to use it to help other mums out there. Normal mums like you and me, who want to be happy in their life. To feel fulfilled. To love their life and not just be fire-fighting all the time, and running on the never-ending hamster wheel.
If you’re feeling a bit meh about your life right now, why not grab my free 10 day guide to falling (back) in love with your life here?
Sophie – the Wife
Not only am I Sophie the Mum, but I’m also Sophie the Wife.
In 2003 I married my soulmate and love of my life, Ben. A Frenchman I met in a bar one night in Nice.
A week after I met him I knew he was my future husband.
3 months after we met we moved in together.
6 months after we met we got engaged and everyone told us it would never last.
That was in 2002.
We still love each other crazily but we also drive each other demented in equal measures.
When we got married we both stated “for better and for worse” and we’ve certainly seen lots of both.
Marriage (and relationships) are incredibly difficult and need to be worked at constantly, but they are also so worth it and so rewarding.
Through this website, and my free and paid resources, I will give you many tools to help you get the most out of your own relationship.
How did this website come about?
Back in 2012 Ben and I were trying for our second baby, had been for a while, and I decided to start a blog all about my experiences parenting in France and in the UK. Having had my first pregnancy, childbirth and our daughter’s early years in France, and as I was about to do it all over again but in London this time, I wanted to share the (many) differences. And Franglaise Mummy was born.
Originally a parenting blog, I shared my experiences of conception (or lack of), miscarriage, pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding, weaning, schooling, tantrums and all the other things you’d expect to find on a mummy blog.
But after a few years I didn’t want to talk about what my kids were up to. I wanted to delve into deeper issues that affect mums – like happiness, dealing with toxic friends, relationship issues, life choices and more. Originally I blogged about these things on Franglaise Mummy until one day everything changed.
It was November 2016, I was on child-free break with Ben at a beautiful hotel, while my parents looked after our girls.
I went for my first Reiki session.
I didn’t really know what to expect, but I loved the calm of the spa. The soothing music. The relaxing smells.
The session started and I felt myself chill right out. I could feel myself beginning to zone out.
It felt a bit like when I did hypnobirthing. I was there but I was on a totally different plane consciously.
As I “came to” at the end of the hour I had this flash of absolute clarity: it was time for me to (semi) retire Franglaise Mummy, and for me to start afresh with a new website, under my own name, where I would dedicate my time helping mums learn to love their life.
And voilà! Here it is 🙂
If you’ve been following me on Franglaise Mummy for these fantastic 5 years then I really hope you’ll love this new site as much, or hopefully even more!
I am here to serve you. I want to help make a positive difference in your life. As I have been trying to do since 2012 with Franglaise Mummy.
Whether you are a new mum, a mum of 10 or a soon-to-be-mum I’m here for you. Whether you’re a working mum, a stay at home mum or a work at home mum you are most welcome. Whether you are struggling with the mummy side of things, the relationship side of things, your in-laws, your job, your friends or simply trying to figure out how to be you or who “you” is since becoming a mum, you are in the right place.
SophieLeBrozec.com is a business. I am deeply proud to be able to serve mums all over the world through my Love Your Life Club and through my public speaking events.
If you’re not comfortable with me earning money this way then you are probably in the wrong place.
By making a living via my club and my events I am able to continue to produce vast amounts of free content – via my blog, Facebook Live videos and free resources.
Earning money from my Love Your Life Club and my public speaking enables me to give back and make a change in the world.
A portion of all my profits goes towards three main charities / areas:
- Le Pont du Tamarinier – a local NGO that I’ve been supporting since 2016 here in Mauritius that works with people living in extreme poverty, helping them with rehousing, training and getting on their feet.
- Comic Relief / Sport Relief – a UK charity that I’ve been supporting since 2014, who raise money to help poor and disadvantaged people in the UK and the world’s poorest communities.
- Syrian refugees – I have been raising awareness of the plight of Syrians via Franglaise Mummy since 2013, and now I can give funds too.
You can read more about where my time and money goes on my Charity Page.
People often ask me “How on earth did you end up doing this?”
I am a HUGE people person.
Add to that my love of working and making money from an early age and you get a 13 year old who is observing the world whilst delivering newspapers and babysitting for family friends and neighbours.
By the time I graduated from university, aged 22, I had worked in over 20 part-time jobs, including as a shop assistant, waitress, cleaner (and yacht cleaner), envelope-stuffer, sandwich-stuffer, barmaid, babysitter, cold caller, call centre service representative, French teacher and more. By my early 20s I had bar-tended and waitressed from Royal Ascot to Liverpool to the French Riviera.
I have observed people from all walks of life, from all cultures, from all languages, and do you know what?
Rich ladies at Ascot get drunk and fall over in exactly the same way as working class men in Liverpool, and as American businessmen in Nice.
As I moved through life, and went from job to job, new role to new role, I listened, I observed and I advised.
From the business people I taught English to. Who confessed to me their worries, concerns and secrets, like “I’m having an affair with my boss and he calls me his sex goddess”, or “my wife doesn’t understand me” or “I hate my job as an engineer and desperately want to be a painter” or “On Wednesdays I don’t work so I can spend time with my children, but I’d really rather be at work” and so much more.
I had high-powered bosses coming to me for advice and crying on my shoulder.
I had clients getting drunk and telling me about their sex life / the fact they didn’t want kids but their partner did / that their dream was to leave the rat race and travel the world.
I’ve been listening, observing and advising for over 20 years.
So why haven’t I bothered to train as a coach?
I have been teaching English and French as foreign languages on and off for 20 years. I do not have a single teaching qualification yet I was the most sought after teacher at the school I used to work at, above those who have actual certificates and qualifications for teaching languages.
I think it would be very interesting to take a course in teaching languages.
I also think it would be fascinating to take a coaching course.
But that’s all. Interesting, fascinating.
Because when I have people tell me that my advice has saved their marriage. Or that I have turned their lives around with suggestions about different ways to do things. Or that they have learned to love themselves, their children and their partner through a blog post. a Facebook Live or some personal advice I’ve given them. Then a training course doesn’t feel necessary. And I’d rather spend my time blogging, vlogging, listening. sharing, helping and advising here.
Highs and Lows
Just in case you were wondering, I’m a relentless optimist. The glass is always half-full (with my favourite drink!). And there is always a way. Ben jokes that no matter what is going on, no matter how bad my reaction is “Well it’s not too bad because…” and I’ll find a silver lining somewhere.
BUT Life is not always hunky dory for me. I have gone through my fair share of break-ups, failures, loss, financial stress and general worry.
I have to work incredibly hard at my marriage.
I have to work incredibly hard at being a mum.
Some days I have to work incredibly hard at smiling and seeing the bright side.
But I will always try. And if I can help you with whatever you’re struggling with then I’d love to 🙂
Experts and Gurus
Let’s be clear. I’m no expert. I’m no guru.
I have some bloody awful days. When I’m the shoutiest of shouty mummies. When Ben drives me demented.
Days when I could quite easily just get in the car and drive far, far away.
I make mistakes. I’m not perfect.
I am sweary and don’t expect me to be wearing make-up in Facebook Live videos.
However there are some things I want to promise you:
- Authenticity. I will always tell it like it is.
- Do expect that I will constantly be on a hunt for the answers – for you, but for me too! And that I will share all of this with you, so you can feel less alone on your path through Mummy World.
- Total and absolute honesty. If there is something I can’t share because it is too personal, or isn’t my story to share then I won’t do it. But I won’t lie about it.
- I will do everything in my power to help you learn to love your life. So that you become happier, which in turn means your kids become happier, as does your partner, your colleagues, your neighbours, your family, friends and everyone you come into contact with. How cool would it be to share happiness and smiles instead of misery, stress, worry and anger?
All this talk of England, France and Mauritius, and what kind of a name is Sophie Le Brozec? Is she English or French?
I am English. I was born in the UK and spent the first 20 years of my life there. I lived on the French Riviera (Nice and its surrounding area) for 12 years. This is where I became an adult: getting pets, buying a house, meeting and marrying my Frenchman, Ben, having my first pregnancy and child. I then lived in London for 5 years, until in 2015 Ben and I decided to move to Mauritius. For those who don’t know anything about Mauritius, it is an incredible tropical island in the Indian Ocean, east of Madagascar.
So I am English, my husband is French, our children are half-English and half-French. Le Brozec is my married name and the “Le” is pronounced like in “le week-end” not like the name “Lee”.
Ben, Léna, Clémence and I are all bilingual and culturally we take the best of what France has to offer (yummy food and wine) and the best of what the UK has to offer (great TV series and music, the ability to throw a party at the last minute and to laugh at yourself).
If you’ve made it this far – thank you so much for reading. I did warn you I was a talkative (over) sharer!
And thank you for wanting to make a positive difference to your life and therefore to the lives of those around you!
I would LOVE to be able to reply to each email and message individually, but sadly I just don’t have the time to do that and create great free stuff to share with all my readers. This is the very reason that I created my Love Your Life Club. For a nominal monthly fee you can join my community of LYL-ers and get to ask questions to your heart’s content 🙂 If you’re serious about loving your life then I’ll see you there!
P.S. Don’t know where to start after reading all that? Why not grab my 10 day guide to falling (back) in love with your life here?
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