It’s time for me to take a break from social media. I am addicted and it’s time for me to stop this drug.
I’ve been blogging and on social media for 10 years. Which, incidentally, is the same amount of time I’ve been a parent.
I’m a sociable, extrovert, oversharer so social media has always lured me in. But, like with the cigarettes I was addicted to in my 20s, I need to stop this drug. I need to go cold turkey.
Some people are able to ration themselves – whether their drug of choice is tobacco, alcohol, marijuana or social media. But I’m not “some people” when it comes to social media and it tends to be all or nothing for me.
And I’m calling time on it.
I’m calling time on not being present in my own life.
I’m calling time on not being present in my relationship.
I’m calling time on not being present in my kids’ lives.
When I first shared this idea with some friends recently they were shocked, they told me “but we’ll miss your photos and updates!” So I am adding an extra section to my weekly newsletter for those of you who do want to follow my story and my life here in Mauritius (you can jump on my mailing list here).
The idea of taking a break from social media has been going round and round in my head for a while now. This idea became more concrete after a recent bereavement, then the awful attack in Manchester sealed the deal for me.
I want to live life through my own eyes, not through the eyes of my phone. I want my kids to see me, their mum, not a human form that has been zombified by a handheld computer.
A few years ago I read Thrive by Arianna Huffington and I realised I was actually addicted to social media. It was a wake-up call which led me to my first digital detox in 2014. I went completely offline for the 2 weeks of our family holiday to France.
It was GLORIOUS!!!!
Obviously it was hard at first, but then I fell in love with this beautiful state.
But we came back home. I went back online. And the cycle started again.
Since then I have spent most holidays offline. And slipped back into my social media addiction once back home.
But it’s time now. It’s time for me to take a break from social media.
Next month I will be on holiday with my family for 2 months. I am beyond excited. I will be returning to London 2 years after we moved away. I will be back in France for the first time in 2 years. And I will be reunited with friends and family members that I haven’t seen in 20 months or more.
I don’t want to live that through a camera lens, through an iPhone or through social media.
I want to soak up every minute of it. I want to be fully alive and aware and in the present as I get to cuddle family’s and friends’ babies, as I drink prosecco with good friends, as I relax on holiday with the kids, as I enjoy some down time with my man.
I don’t want our Disneyland experience to be marred by thinking up witty captions to post with my family pics.
Don’t get me wrong, I love social media so much: when I was pregnant with Clémence, our youngest, and dealing with her as a newborn, it was a lifesaver, and I wouldn’t have changed it for the world.
Also working online as I do, social media has been an incredibly important marketing tool for my business.
And maybe I will come back to it at some point. But for now, even if my business suffers for it, for now I need to put me and my family first.
I need to put me and my family first, but I also need to put my clients first. I have had some incredible feedback from my Love Your Life Club members, and now I need the mental bandwidth to create the e-books and e-courses requested.
You see, social media destroys my brain and my positive mindset. It stops me from being properly creative and it holds me back from writing. I want to inspire and help women to live the life they love, but to do so I need to make sure I’m living the life I love too.
And social media doesn’t always allow me to do that. It can be such a boost – making me smile and cry with laughter. But more often than not it brings my mood down. People are nasty to others online. And in general I find it leaves me feeling worse rather than better.
So that’s it for now. Bye bye social media. It’s time for us to take a break. I’m pressing pause.
On almost everything.
Moving forwards, when I publish a blog post I will share it on social media, from a third-party app to avoid me having to actively be present.
I will still be contactable via Facebook Messenger as I will treat this like email.
I will still participate in the Facebook groups I run and I am part of. As I find these so uplifting and inspirational.
For everything else I’m gone. No more Facebook timeline, no more Instagram, Twitter or Pinterest.
I will miss my wonderful online friends. People I have been chatting to online since 2012, people who have seen me through some tough times. I will miss you.
And if you miss me I’ll still be there, sharing in my weekly newsletter.
Sharing our family holiday to Europe as we explore cities, countryside, mountains and beaches. From the cooler temperatures of the Alps and Ireland to the heat of the south of France. From the culture and nature of Cornwall to the consumerism of Disneyland Paris. From drinking fizz in London to visiting the home of Champagne in Reims. As we celebrate new babies and 70th birthdays. I’ll still be sharing, but just a snapshot, in my weekly newsletter.
It’s going to be very strange. But I can’t wait!
With so much love,
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